Understanding Your Birth Chart: Uncovering the Secrets of Love in Your Natal Chart
Venus is actually the place where we pursue pleasure—and also the way we seek pleasure. So, when we bring this into the emotional realm, it exactly corresponds to the type of person who may bring us joy, or which qualities in another person are charming and intoxicating to us. This is different from the Moon, which represents where our sense of security lies and the way we seek it. Therefore, many people, when searching for a romantic partner or spouse in their natal chart, may encounter a "contradiction." For example, some might choose Venus' side—the person who brings you joy and pleasure, while others might choose someone who provides a sense of security. Of course, some people's charts can balance both, while others may not. This can lead to disloyalty, such as when someone chooses the person who makes them happy but lacks the security they need. Over time, this may result in meeting someone who satisfies the emotional needs of their Moon sign, which can spark a connection. This is a concept clearly mentioned in astrology textbooks, so sometimes the energies of Venus and the Moon can be "opposed" or "contradictory" when choosing an emotional partner. But remember, this is not absolute—it’s just a possible risk. Each person’s upbringing and personal emotional standards vary, so the way they balance this "contradiction" also differs.
In personal astrology charts, a man’s way of choosing a partner can often be seen through his Venus and Moon placements (if the person is of a different orientation, then the areas of focus will differ). Venus represents the feminine archetype (unmarried or attractive women), while the Moon is more like a mature woman or mother. In astrology, Venus is the ruler of Taurus and Libra, so when Venus expresses love, it carries the energy of these two signs—such as jealousy, possessiveness, and balance. Venus is a gentle planet; it doesn’t enjoy large conflicts—Mars does, being more aggressive. Many people in relationships will adapt to their partner’s preferences, for example, learning a certain dish because the partner likes it. Venus’ energy is more about—if you like something, I’ll try to become or have that thing. It’s a sense of complementarity, and we also improve ourselves because of Venus’ energy, striving to become more "perfect." Venus doesn’t like people having bad impressions of us—think about it: when you’re with someone you like, don’t you try to suppress your flaws or habits you don’t want them to know about? This is Venus’ influence on us. In love, there is often a lot of mutual compromise and change.
In a personal birth chart, if you have a strong Venus energy, you generally want to appear calm and avoid conflict (because Venus seeks pleasure and tranquility). Therefore, you may become more yielding and willing to accommodate others. You would typically show up in relationships as gentle, with little emotional turbulence or exaggerated behavior. Of course, people with this energy are becoming rarer in today’s society. If someone can use Venus’ energy well, they can avoid many emotional issues and conflicts.
So, what are the traits of the 12 Venus signs?
Venus in Aries People with Venus in Aries are often rebellious and appear harmless, but they can be hard to deal with and hard to pursue. These people often fall in love at first sight or develop an attraction to someone immediately, but that attraction may fade quickly. They may also experience emotional competition, like competing for the affection of the same person. They are not particularly rational in dealing with emotional issues, often making decisions they regret later.
Venus in Taurus This is a position for long-lasting love. People with Venus in Taurus often hold onto their first love or a deeply memorable romantic experience, unable to move past it. Venus in Taurus is in its ruling sign, so it feels more stable here. These people have good taste and may have a deep interest in a specific field. As they grow older, they tend to evaluate the value of a relationship in terms of time and material costs. If the risk or cost is too high for them, they may not start the relationship, making this a more rational Venus placement. However, they can be passive and prone to secret infatuation.
Venus in Gemini This is a very attractive Venus position due to wit, humor, or talent, and even physical appearance may meet public aesthetic standards. However, people with Venus in Gemini often create a sense of insecurity, as they seem flirtatious and unreliable in keeping promises. Even so, many still become infatuated with them. They are good with words and know how to maintain relationships, often having a wide circle of friends. In love, they prefer easygoing relationships and tend to seek the feeling of being in love without rushing into marriage.
Venus in Cancer To win the heart of someone with Venus in Cancer, you need to be gentle, thoughtful, and provide a sense of security. This person may prefer a partner who is a little chubby or has baby fat, and women might prefer men who aren’t too skinny. In relationships, these people are timid, vulnerable, and somewhat cowardly. They tend to worry about being hurt in love and may prefer not to start a relationship unless they are confident. They are also likely to live together before marriage to assess the future relationship.
Venus in Leo People with Venus in Leo are often dominant in love and may be somewhat spoiled. However, their intentions are simple—they want to meet someone even more dominant to "manage" them. Though they appear mature and composed, they revert to childish behaviors in front of their partner, constantly seeking praise and attention. They thrive in the honeymoon phase of a relationship, always wanting that passionate, early-stage love. They are generous with their partner but may put pressure on them to meet their ideal.
Venus in Virgo Venus in Virgo people tend to be very rational in love, often suppressing their emotions and trying not to appear out of control. Despite having many emotions inside, they often maintain a calm demeanor and may end up feeling like they are quietly suffering. This position of Venus can be weakened in terms of energy, and these people are likely to meet their partner through work or professional connections. They may also struggle with showing affection in a romantic way, focusing too much on practicality.
Venus in Libra People with Venus in Libra tend to idealize relationships and their partners, often rationalizing their partner’s flaws. They have high standards for their partner’s appearance and seek someone with exceptional skills in work or life. Venus in Libra people rarely act out of control in love, as they aim to maintain a harmonious image and avoid negative evaluations. They are also very willing to compromise and accommodate their partner.
Venus in Scorpio Venus in Scorpio individuals are very stubborn and dislike compromising, as they believe "I am who I am." This placement of Venus is considered a "fallen" position, meaning its energy can be unstable. People with Venus in Scorpio often form deep, almost unforgettable relationships with their partners, regardless of how long the relationship lasts. This can lead to intense, sometimes unhealthy relationships, including jealousy or obsessive feelings. They are highly emotional but caring when in a stable state.
Venus in Sagittarius Venus in Sagittarius people respect their partner's ideas and values. Even in a romantic relationship, they want their partner to have an independent lifestyle and pursue their own goals. They dislike being confined by rules and often engage in adventurous relationships, such as defying parental approval or entering taboo relationships. They may also long for a pure, innocent love similar to a school romance.
Venus in Capricorn For Venus in Capricorn, the most important thing in love is admiration. This is a determined Venus position, where individuals have a strong sense of pride and may not seek help from their partner. They have traditional views on gender roles and may place pressure on themselves to achieve certain goals before feeling perfect. However, they also admire people who are more accomplished and strive to catch up with them.
Venus in Aquarius Venus in Aquarius is one of the most unpredictable placements. People with this Venus sign bring surprises to their love lives and prefer to keep things light and not drag out a relationship. They are social and often develop romantic connections from friendships or work relationships. These individuals maintain curiosity and are fascinated by people who possess skills or traits they don’t have themselves. Venus in Aquarius people are rational and logical about love and don’t like being emotionally bound.
Venus in Pisces People with Venus in Pisces have a unique quality that makes others feel drawn to them, as if they've met them before, even if they've never seen them. They tend to idealize love and may plan their future wedding in detail. Venus in Pisces is a passive placement, where these individuals may be led by their partner, believing that love means accommodating and tolerating. Unfortunately, they are prone to deception and emotional hurt, and their romantic experiences are often dramatic or even tumultuous.
